Tag Archives: Issue 25

Inspiration: Tim

13 Jul

activistmemes.com99_nMaybe we should all be a little bit more like Tim.

Until next time,

Daisy

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Ask Us Anything!

12 Jul

“I’m in a long term relationship [we’ve been dating for 5 years] and recently me and my partner have got into a rather boring routine that involves not a lot of sex and rarely going out together. How do we get out of this rut?”

Rubyyy says: Hello Darling! It’s natural for relationships to have ebbs and flows of passion and fun, and I think it’s great that you care and that you wanna revitalize things; show me true passion and devotion for your partner and your relationship.

I would suggest, instead of having a discussion, make some plans, take life by the reins, do something you’ve always wanted to and invite your partner a long. Sometimes it just takes getting back into the swing of things.

When it comes to the sex, mix that up to but also deep your intimacy and eroticism. Make time specifically to explore and discover sensual and sexual sensations and scenarios.

You’ve said the word “lazy” and to me that is a lazy excuse! Ha! This your life! Your partner! Your partnership! Invest in it, explore it, don’t waste the friendship and life youve built together! Enrich it and fly free in sexy, super fun love :)))

Apillable or not?

10 Jul

It seems to be fact that more young people are on antidepressants than our older generations were. But is this because we genuinely need them, and if so, why is our need greater than that of our elders? Or is it that doctors are just more willing to prescribe tablets to patients, making our generation a more dependent one on drugs?

Tablets actually help. That is a fact, otherwise there would be no need for them. They simply would not be prescribed. Whether or not doctors are more willing to hand them out does not matter in a way.

We have to ask ourselves why so many should be healthy young people are in a position to have to visit their doctor and therefore be prescribed medication. I myself was put on antidepressants after a serious illness took hold of me. If I’m honest, I needed them. That was a couple of years ago and since I have requested to come off of them but was told to wait until a stress-free time. I have now only in the last couple of months been able to stop taking them. My doctors were, in my opinion, sensible in keeping me on them until I was ready to come off them by having a ready lifestyle.

Yes, more young people are taking antidepressants but is that because life is becoming more difficult and stressful than past times or is it that people are just finding it harder to cope? Why is this however? In previous generations there were world wars etc. Was there not a need then? The answer is no. There is always a need, people always have problems and issues but not everyone chooses to take medication for them. However, psychological illnesses weren’t always diagnosed back then, for example: many soldiers suffering from shell shock in WW1 were fact suffering from PTSD, though many were accused of cowardice and shot. Does this then mean that there were a lot more depressed people that just weren’t diagnosed?

I saw on television a story about a girl who had visited her GPs on a totally irrelevant matter and was put on antidepressants. Yes in this case I believe the doctor was too easy in giving the girl the tablets as a solution but we do not know the finer details of the appointment. The girl may have in fact had underlying issues in which she needed to be put on the medication for.

Why is this in fact an issue? In this day and age, science has progressed leaps and bounds for these very reasons. Why not take advantage of what is already there for us? Why is there an issues if it helps someone’s problem?

In conclusion, in my own personal view, yes everyone has problems, some people’s are big and some are small but if a solution is there, why should the people who find it harder to cope, not have them in order to make their lives easier?

 

About the Writer: Becky has just finished a degree in English and Creative Writing and is very happy with her 2:1. She is friendly, bubbly and just so happens to be the co-creator of Yellow Bunting. She hopes you enjoy it and that you get involved!

Life Lessons From The X Files

8 Jul

I love the X Files [but I still don’t know how I feel about this]. It’s funny, weird and intelligent with strong characters and some truly absurd storylines; in all honesty that’s what I want from a TV show. What could be better than a sceptic and a believer, roaming the country investigating the unexplained and bizarre against a backdrop of shoulder pads, court shoes and government conspiracy? It’s a thing of beauty and has taught me many things, some useful, some not and some of which I’m going to share with you today.

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  • Fuck authority. Think about it: Mulder ignores pretty much every order he’s ever given and there are times when he makes up his own assignments. He also peer pressures Scully into doing the same and- OH MY GOD Mulder’s a bully.
  • Science is cool. ‘Nuff said.
  • The truth is out there. Somewhere in the deepest darkest depths of the US government is the answer to everything you’ve ever wondered about ever.
  • What’s that saying – a good friend will bail you out of jail but your best friend will be in there with you. Let it never be said that Mulder and Scully never do things by halves: a good friend will help you move but your best friend/soul mate/the one everyone wants you to end up sleeping with will help you move a body.
  • Cabin fever sucks. Be rational while everyone else is hysterical, stick by your partner and don’t let strangers and their lies come between you.
  • Don’t continue to change the story about how your sister got abducted by aliens. Then even less people will believe you.
  • Always have something witty to say about the situation, you never know when people will need a dry one liner to break the tension.
  • If something seems too good to by true, it probably is. A brand new partner who believes you and respects your work? Seems legit!
  • Suspect everyone. EVERYONE. You never know who could be an alien bounty hunter.
  • Study all evidence before drawing any conclusions. Form a solid argument; admit when it doesn’t account for something and then go tear your opponent a new one. Failing that, think of the most ludicrous theory you can come up with, back it up with ‘studies’ and act surprised when people think you’re spooky.

Bonus lesson:

  • Keep a torch on you all at times. Preferably one powered by a car battery.

About the Writer: Daisy is an irregular photographer, wannabe writer and full time female. In between tea and toast breaks she spends far too much time on the internetbloggingtumbling and tweeting. She is unapologetic in her love of the Spice Girls.

The Blind Side

5 Jul

“I’m very thick-skinned. Some people have tried to make this something it’s not – black/white, rich/poor – why do they have to label it? But I don’t care, it’s partly true – I do tend to vote Republican and I do carry a gun wherever I go” – Leigh Anne Tuohy

Before I begin I just want to apologise for my lack of attendance lately…I have been in the middle of starting a new job and in the middle of moving house. My life affairs have been up in the air and my personal belongings have been split across two houses.  I realise you all don’t wish to hear about my life story but I feel a duty towards the readers of Yellow Bunting to explain my lack of involvement.

The books I have read about being a writer have always said that a physical and a mental space to write is the most fundamental aspect of success and because of the hassle of moving out and being sad that the time of living with my best friends for four years has come to an end my writing has taken a back seat but don’t fret I have my computer set up in the office, a comfy chair, the rain is pattering on the window and I am ready to pull myself back together!

Anyway, enough about the minor details that have no relevance to this article’s topic, which by the way is about a lady called Leigh Anne Tuohy.

Before reading ahead into why she is in my Most Inspiring Women feature, just Google her name and take a brief look at images or her website. DON’T READ IN DETAIL JUST YET! Make a note of your first impressions of her, her job, her money and the way she looks. Judging by these features she just appears to be a typical suburban, middle class American wife. Right?

Wrong.

Leigh Anne Tuohy is in fact so much more than that and if I told you that Sandra Bullock’s character in the film The Blind Side is based on her, would that make her seem like a different person? Or for those of you who have never seen the film/heard of it then read on and find out how amazing this woman is.

Leigh Anne is a Memphis, Tennessee resident and she attended Briarcrest Christian School and graduated from the University of Mississippi with a degree in Interior Design. She met her husband Sean Tuohy and they went on to build a very successful life together. Her Interior Design business has taken off and she is featured in ABC’s Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Leigh Anne Tuohy was the daughter of a US Marshal and she lived the typical life of an all American cheerleader; a member of the Kappa Delta, married a basketball player, started a successful business and lived happily ever after in a nice big house with their two perfect children. Life was perfect for her.

However, unlike others in her position of having everything she could have wished for, she didn’t forget for one second that there are people out there with next to nothing…

Like Michael Oher.

One day Tuohy and her family were on their way home during the winter and spotted Michael Oher walking alone in shorts and a t shirt. Instead of continuing their journey home she asked her husband to pull over and she asked where he was going and ended up giving him a lift to the bus station and she soon found out his story was a cover up and he was from a sad background of neglect, loneliness and violence.

Untitled1A couple of weeks later she had him temporarily move into the family home and sometime after, she asked him to become a part of their family so they became Michael’s legal guardians. Since then he has graduated from university and plays professional American football.

That’s all there is to it…and I know you’re thinking, is that it?

Compared to the other women I have written about, her story is simple and some of you may be thinking about why she qualifies as an inspiration.

However, for me it’s the simplicity of her story that makes her such an inspiration. She grew up as the daughter of a conservative Republican father but she defied the values of her upbringing and made her own decisions based on what she thought was right. Leigh Anne Tuohy changed the life of a hopeless kid with no direction or any sense of belonging and she says “he had a much greater impact on our lives than we did on his life.”

Untitled2Despite the shortness of her story, and the fact that her family are arguably just as insignificant as the rest of us in the grand scheme of things, the ability for her to see past her perfect family bubble and notice Michael’s struggles has reached out to me on a more personal level and perhaps that’s why I think she deserves her place in this article. Whether I’m alone in this thought is irrelevant, I think she is amazing.

“I think women have to wear a lot of different hats. Not only do you have to be the mother the nuturerer, but also the wife and the housekeeper and now, so many have to and want to have a career. So, you have to wear a lot of hats. I’m not a big women’s liberation person — not at all — but I do think right now, women have to contribute to all facets.” – Leigh Anne Tuohy

To read an interview with Leigh Anne herself please click here.

Melody has just finished a degree in Journalism, Film and Media with a 2:1. She aspires to work with vulnerable women and children subject to domestic, and or other forms of abuse. She is an animal lover and has a small obsession with Fearne Cotton. She is a constant joker and can be found on Twitter.

Sundays at Tiffany’s review

3 Jul

To all of you who have ever given hope to one day find your imaginary friend to be a real person later in life; this is the book for you!

Michael is Jane’s imaginary friend, and we start when Jane is days away from turning nine, and Michael is burdened with the worst possible job of an imaginary friends, he has to tell her that he needs to leave.

After realising that the party her mother has thrown was not intended for her in the first place, Jane is distraught and seeks company in Michael, but he can only do so much for her has to leave her forever.

Or does he?

Fast forward; Jane’s now an adult, planning her wedding to the star of her broadway show Thank Heaven and is less than satisfied. Her, supposedly leading man, is not very interested in her, and Jane can’t thinking back on how Michael treated her.

Much to Jane’s disbelief, she stumbles across Michael once again, but this time he is real, remembers her and their relationship stumbles onto the next level until Michael realises that he has one last job to do!

We follow the book through two perspectives, the first is through Jane’s inner monologue (first person) and the second is told from Michael’s side of the story, but in third person.

It makes for interesting reading.

james-patterson_sundays-at-tiffanysThe chapters are short and easy to read. In fact it makes for brilliant easy reading as the two perspectives are easy to follow. You know quite clearly when you’ve changed from one to the other.

James Patterson is well known in literary circles for writing adventure and crime books, so this is a completely different genre for him.

However over the last couple of years he has been writing increasingly with co-authors. Someone once said to me that it was a tactic of launching a new author, but unfortunately I have not seen anything from Gabrielle Charbonnet since Sundays at Tiffany’s, which is a shame because I suspect that she was the driving force behind this book- it has that feel of a woman’s touch to it.

The thing about this book that doesn’t make it just another love story, is the magical element to it, Michael comes back to Jane when she needs him most in her adult life, and that’s nice. You never get an explanation of it, but it has a Godly feel about it.

Another thing that makes this book work is the fact that Jane is not some simpering heroine. She’s gusty. She’s not your average beauty in the book, and she’s all the better for that! A woman who lives by her own means and has a brain to boot! What isn’t to like?

Even though this book isn’t well known, it has been made into a movie (unfortunately only available in the US) with the all too lovely Alyssa Milano as Jane, which as far as I can tell causes the plot to lose something- but not having seen it, I can’t tell.

What I can tell you is that the book is worth reading- just if you are a James Patterson fan; Do NOT expect his usual adventure flare.

Sundays at Tiffany’s gets a very magical four out of five. I would have a loved a bit more, just a few more feelings and maybe a slightly more satisfactory conclusion. Apart from that, it’s a darling little book that is well worth a quick read.

Well there you are! Don’t forget to spend Sundays at Tiffany’s!

About the Writer: Stef is a 22 year old graduate who has a lifelong obsession with books and reading who also loves music and live theatre. You’re most likely to find her in a book shop or out in London standing at a theatre stage door. She can be found on twitter and running The World of Blyton.

Editor’s Letter

1 Jul

Hey guys!

Who enjoyed their weekend? It certainly was sunny – who else had Pimms in the garden?

We have another wonderful inspirational woman for you this issue, as well as a review of Sunday at Tiffany’s, some life lessons and an interesting look at whether we really need pills to make us feel better.

As always, we hope you enjoy and look forward to hearing your thoughts and opinions!

Becky & Daisy