Friends for Life!

17 Aug

One of the most awkward times in my life was when I was in college. A group of us were planning a charity gig and trying to attract an audience, a friend of mine turned to another member (who didn’t hang around with us much) and said for him to ‘invite your friends’, his response? ‘I don’t have any friends’. Which then lead to a very uncomfortable atmosphere. Friends are a very important part of life. They relax you, offer you advice, act as a social aid, and help you not to go too mad. When I moved back home from university, I was afraid that I wouldn’t have many friends. So much so, (and as difficult as this is to admit), I even wrote a list of friends I had to make myself feel better.

So who are friends? People say that university friends are for life. I don’t speak to quite a lot of my friends from there, not because of anything in particular but we have just lost contact. It probably doesn’t help that 2 of them have been until very recently or are still, in America. My other group of friends I meet up fairly regularly with and would count these more so as friends back home. And there’s Daisy, who although I don’t really see very often, is the co-manager of Yellow Bunting! This helps us keep in touch with one another. You see, I love all of my friends but life gets in the way. Especially when some live in what can be seen as another country. Well, England, which, yes I know it is still Britain but still it’s quite far! And so they are sometimes harder to keep in touch with than those living in the same place and near to me. My point? University friends may be for life but at the end of your studies, more often than not, everyone goes back to their hometowns or pursues a career, which usually isn’t in a place with their university peers.

However, friends aren’t everything. There was a point in my life when I was socialising so much that it became difficult to have time to myself to get anything done. However, I wouldn’t change this for the world, I was just happy to have a life that I was afraid wouldn’t happen. Friends don’t have to be everything though, so if you are going through a bad patch with one (or some) or don’t really have any, you don’t always have to worry about it! Fight for your friends (but don’t make all of the effort, you have to know that they want to be friends with you too) but don’t worry if you don’t have many. You’ll make more in the future; when you a new job, move, even people you meet online. All of these hypothetical reasons could be responsible for new people in your life, people who are more similar to you. But don’t worry if you can’t find anyone, you should never change or change your personality for anyone, and if someone cannot appreciate you then don’t change for them. If having friends makes you fake then would you still want them? It is your choice, but don’t worry yourself with finding people, if they are meant to be then they will happen. Put yourself out there, show off your personality and find the right people for you, people who will make you feel good about yourself, help you and make you happy. Believe me, I have had friends who have made me feel very crummy and you deserve to be happy so stand up for yourself!

About the writer: Becky has just finished a degree in English and Creative Writing and is very happy with her 2:1. She is friendly, bubbly and just so happens to be the co-creator of Yellow Bunting. She hopes you enjoy it and that you get involved!

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