Gok’s Style Secrets

2 Feb

Have any of you been watching the Gok’s Style Secrets recently? For those of you that haven’t here’s the basic premise; Gok takes a single, undatable woman under his wing and makes her datable. He dresses her up, he teaches her how to flirt, he tells her how to behave on dates.

Over the past few weeks we’ve been treated to a film lover being told she shouldn’t talk about her passion for film on dates and a champion kick-boxer told not to talk about boxing because it was intimidating. Women with visible tattoos or quirky fashion sense have been accused of using these things to scare men off. One woman was told she wasn’t showing enough skin – “get your cleavage out, men love big boobs” – the next week another woman was chastised for showing too much skin – “that skirt’s so short I could be your gynaecologist! You should leave something to the imagination”.

Here’s the problem though; most women come with interests and talents that they want to talk about, some have tattoos and dress in a certain way because it reflects who they are, and some really, really resent that the length of their skirt defines them as matron or slut. This programme assumes that everything a woman does, from kick-boxing to what she wears, is done solely to send a message to men. A woman wearing a dress that shows her tattoos can’t possibly be doing so because she loves her tattoos, it’s got to be because she’s trying to intimidate men. (Another assumption is that all women are incessantly searching for Mr Right because being single is a terrible affliction, but that’s another rant for another day).

It’s easy to watch these sorts of programmes and not really think too much about the underlying message they’re sending out, it’s just a bit of light entertainment on an evening, right? But at its core this programme seems to be telling us that it’s not alright to be yourself, if you ever want to find a man you have to tone down your personality and hide the things that make you unique.

Gok told us at the end of the latest episode that it’s all about confidence, and he’s actually right on that one. Be confident in who you are and embrace the things that make you unique, if a man doesn’t like you because of it then he’s just not the right man, it’s not because you aren’t the right woman. If you’re looking for a relationship put yourself out there and you’ll find someone who is interested in you, quirks and all, and in the meantime enjoy being single!

Agree or disagree? Leave a comment and let us know!

About the writer: Catherine is a biology geek by day and cake baker by night. When she’s not in the kitchen you’ll be able to find her writing, tending to her tomato plant or curled up reading one of her many cookbooks.


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